I am an idealist with a clear picture of the ideal society
which I am advocating for structured around and operating on the philosophy of
system. A society where everything and everyone thrives. And when it comes to
marriage and family, I believe by that standard, what we have today is far from
the ideal and its progressively moving to a more critical dilapidated
precarious state that the whole social structure which rest on family as the
second basic component element that makes up the social system is at the peak of
collapse.
In the ideal society as defined and proposed by the
philosophy of system, “being precedes doing” is what we uphold because what a
person does or what character or action a person or organism exhibits is a
product of its nature - its metaphysically assigned attributes. So man "is" and man can "become". However, until he (be) he cannot do(perform) but here’s the irony; if we
in our wisdom consider it necessary to train people to become doctors, lawyers, bankers, engineers and many other professionals and certify them ok before they
are released and allowed to practice, why do we think that family management;
wife or husband or parenting is not as critical in its role and essence in the
society as these other fields of endeavor to require caution and scrutinization of the
process we use to select and approve of those who should practice or function
in the role
Although in most professions today, our educational system
has failed in that the system and the structure they use to build and evaluate the
competence, capacity and character of enrollees to be able to perform before they
are certified is flawed because the structure and system was developed independent/outside
of the metaphysical reality and foundation of the universe. They didn’t
consider the nature of things and their purpose to align their methods and
structure to enhance it. Instead, they just construct whatever and in the longrun, because reality is what it is and whatever is sown is what is reaped the people
that today’s education certified as competent and capable are been disapproved
by reality who is the final arbiter. So for me, education (at all levels)must be
rooted and structured around the bases
and foundation of metaphysical reality with a simulated environment of the
existing reality of the outside world to prepare the students, giving them the correct values they need to be able to perform when they get
out. That way, what they encounter or are confronted with will nolonger be new
or a surprise to them when they come to face real world – they have been
prepared and expose to the whole senerio and way things operate
Family after the individual is a unit or institution of
society where the individual is raised to discover who he his (his unique
values) and guided properly on how to effectively deploy it as an input value
required for other institutions and entities of society to function optimally
inorder to sustain and improve life on earth. Family or marriage like other organizations is a social institution that is goal oriented having defined job roles and management structure to coordinate the functions of all employees towards acheiving that goal and therefore should be treated with same seriousness and procedures as other corporate and social organizations. It is only in marriage that I have
seen that people are certified to get married before they are trained and
prepared for their different roles and responsibilities in home/family
management and because one cannot give what he doesn’t have, it is not surprising
to have different ills and havoc issues in marriages and families today as we
can all attest to increase in emotional abuse, increase rate of divorce, ill
mannered and irresponsible adult produced by families causing menace that’s
destroying social, economic and political system and destroying humanity today
I picture an ideal reality where anyone who decides or
intends to get married and build a family (because it is not compulsory for
everybody) to see it as a profession, a career or occupation (because that’s what
it is) that has a role in determining the holistic state of affairs in the
social, economic and political space of any society and hence requires training.
I picture a society where the standard and structure for training and
evaluating these individuals to be certified would focus on their understanding both theory and practical of the role of family in nation building, their essence
and role in the determining the individual the children grows to become, of their
individual unique value and roles in the society, in understanding the values
each individual in the family requires to identify develop and become the best
of who they were designed to be. An ideal society where only those who have
proven in the incubatory and simulated (either physical or by virtual reality
technology) environment (school)of a real family and were able to perform and
prove competence and character over a certain period of time is granted and permitted
to get married and start building a family. But until then until this whole
social structure is restructured the ideal family/marriage which is the basic
element holding up the structure of the ideal society will remain bleak and in
latent state
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