FAMILY STRUCTURE (ADVICE AND ADVOCACY)

So you want to start a family and you don’t have a vision for the family, are you kidding me? You mean you don’t have a clear discrete picture of what and how you want your family to look like penned down and you want to have a successful home? You mean you don’t know what you intend to achieve with that kind of family you want to raise and have it penned down. Like you don’t have reasonable reason why you even want to go into marriage and start a family or you think it’s a sin if you don’t get married? In fact the sinner is he who married for every wrong reason which is outside the standard/ doesn’t align to the ultimate purpose of the system by the philosophy of system. You mean you have not determined the cost, identified the resources and how to source those resources required to achieve the vision of that kind of family you want to raise? you mean you don’t have an administrative structure, template, model to run guide direct control and regulate operations and involvements and rewards of stake holders, resources and factors to ensure that vision is realized. Wait wait wait, when we say marriage is an institution and family is a unit of the society what were you thinking we meant eh? In every society/state as it were, we have government institutions, educational institutions, corporate/business institutions, social institutions etc don’t you see they are all institutions so they are basically the same? Haaa!!!! The same way we had to structure and run the corporate institutions recording major successes in business/corporate world and still dominating the industry is how we should run the family for it to be a success. like if you want to live a good legacy and establish a strong brand name for your family dominating that industry and influencing other spheres of human endeavor. Don’t you hear of the ibru family and the likes? I watched a movie; empire they own a family business I’m not saying the purpose of family is to start a business but am saying the success is greatly determined by management system of which if the same management system and model adopted in establishing and running these successful organizations are incorporated into the family institution it will be successful. But you know that before you start an organization you need to establish the foundations which are vision mission purpose values and policy/operational procedures goals programs and outlined routine activities to achieve them. Why are human beings not thinking nau, esp ladies mostly just the euphoria and enthusiasm of wedding wedding just for social recognition, respect and to belong so they can avoid the loss of self-esteem which they pegged to marriage but no capacity no strength of character required to be able to structure and build a family that will establish a strong brand and phenomenal stake in the history of human existence. Oga and madam single hoping to get married and already married; you cannot achieve success in marriage without a written down well communicated and internalized vision mission values plan for the family. You as a guy that is your job to establish and develop that foundation and that’s why a course in leadership and management(general and family/home) is compulsory in the education of the male folks (its already integrated into thrivehood’s the new school curriculum) because I don’t understand the education administrators in the world, how they think and come up with the curriculum that people go through, i don’t understand the base and standard they use to evaluate and determine how these courses are categorized and administered and it’s all bullshit since they neglect metaphysical foundation of the universe. Then find a woman who is willing and ready to work with you towards achieving it, i say work, i said work because is not moi moi. And you the lady i can’t understand why you or what you are doing in courtship with a guy who doesn’t have vision mission values policy for the family hes calling you to help him build  if not that you can and want to help him discover and develop it or a guy whose vision mission purpose values for the family has not been clearly stated and communicated to you. Then it just clearly reveals the flaws in your value system evident in your priority list of what you lookout for in your ideal groom/husband. Without you knowing these basics how do you know what you are about to help with as the help mate or you don’t know it’s the work of building a model family which is able to produce optimally and effective individuals to drive socioeconomic development in any society he enters that you were recruited to support assist and contribute to the realization since it is a tedious work for the man alone? I don’t just know, eh  don’t you know this man is just like an employer who has structured established and raised the brand to an extend and advertising a vacancy for you as a lady and you are demanding for salary and allowances from the boss when you have not agreed to work for him by requesting and expecting he spends on you to prove love? When you have not accepted the employment terms and conditions when you have not proven your worth and value by your contribution to the development of the business or organization you were recruited into ah? Even the job description is there during the probation/training period before your appointment is confirmed and you are given full employment which is when the marriage is done. Job description during probation and after you appointment is confirmed when you now have an established role and place in the organization are not the same oooo. Your job description changes after appointment has been confirmed like there are added responsibilities during probation. Madam your responsibility doesn’t include sex ooooo madam don’t come here with those stupid crocodile tears of giving him sex like you did him a favour. it’s for your selfish interest I mean the sexual act itself you enjoyed it so don’t come and cry when you gave sex and you lost the relationship. It’s your fault of having misplaced priorities and flawed value system. How do you even define success sef, as in what is the standard you use to determine the success of the family or home. See according to the philosophy of system the vision of the family is to provide an enabling environment with adequate resources for the overall development, wellbeing and welfare of all stakeholders to attain independence and contribute significantly to the common good of the larger society. So by that standard rate yourself in terms of the family you came from, the one you intend to establish or the one you are currently running and tell me if you continue as you are now if this stated general family vision can be achieved? People think oo well that’s the whole idea of thrivehood using the philosophy of system to provide you the template or model and teach them how to use/customize it to suit/bring out the unique value of you as an individual family business etc to achieve the ideal society