Attaining Life's ideal state

So you want to start a family and you don’t have a vision for the family, are you kidding me? You mean you don’t have a clear discrete picture of what and how you want your family to look like penned down and you want to have a successful home? You mean you don’t know what you intend to achieve with that kind of family you want to raise and have it penned down. Like you don’t have reasonable reason why you even want to go into marriage and start a family or you think it’s a sin if you don’t get married? In fact the sinner is he who married for every wrong reason which is outside the standard/ doesn’t align to the ultimate purpose of the system by the philosophy of system. You mean you have not determined the cost, identified the resources and how to source those resources required to achieve the vision of that kind of family you want to raise? you mean you don’t have an administrative structure, template, model to run guide direct control and regulate operations and involvements ...

When I preach against selflessness I'm not being a heck am just being honest and sincere because I have been there acting and believing  that everything I do is ultimately to benefit others without knowing that everything one does is eventually coming back to him good or bad so ultimately whatever you do is for your own good (forgiveness kindness help tolerance etc are selfish virtues) To be selfish entails a character that reflects a recognition of his uniqueness by nature requires that it is nurtured and developed by the values he seeks in order to grow from seed to tree and bear fruit and must continue to seek out these values to keep bearing fruit. This must be a man's primary concern and placed above serving the purpose of others I have denied the me in me the values it needs to grow and reach highest potential just to prove to my friends that I am a good person I have sacrificed what the me in me really needed to grow in way of my career job and many other ways to ...